What is pleasure anyway? Pleasure – the state of being pleased.

We can apply this to any of the activities that we do for enjoyment. Sometimes we can even apply this to our work.

When I think of pleasure, for me the word pleasure is associated with relaxation – fishing and boating, floating in the pool, hanging out at the beach. Spending time with my wife -doing anything together…sometimes even a little work around the house together, provides a sense of satisfaction – pleasure.   

Did you think of sex yet?

What if we asked our wives…

What if we asked our spouse…

Would you like to have pleasure together? Would you like to make pleasure together? Would you like to spend some time in pleasure together?

When is the last time you asked your spouse a question like that? Did you ever ask them a question like that? What would it mean to you, if you asked a question like that? What would it mean to your spouse, if you asked a question like that?

What if we pursued pleasure together? What if they were intentional about this concept in the secular world? Would it creep into Christian atmospheres? What if we could bring this concept to our marriages in the Church – for ALL Christians to embrace. And instead of secular influence ruining another one of God’s Gifts – Christians Spread the Word in the secular world – the way God intended. Pleasure is mutual and for both. Pleasure means GIVING.

Example:

This Sunday I am going on a date with my wife. She gave us the idea. We are going to a concert for pleasure – together. The state of being pleased together.

What if we applied this concept to our lives? What if we made a focus to give pleasure to each other in our marriages?  What if we used this word as a focal point in our marriages? What if we included GIVING in the meaning of the word pleasure?

What if we applied this concept to sex in our marriages? What if instead of sex as the primary method of being pleased, we think of pleasure as the primary goal — We give pleasure to each other – sex = pleasure = GIVING. What if we think of the pleasure of sex as just one of many ways to get there? Get where? PLEASURE!

What if pleasure wasn’t just physical, but emotional, spiritual, and relational? What if it was about connection, laughter, presence, kindness — and, yes, intimacy — but all flowing from a deep desire to give, not just to get?

Too often we approach sex in marriage as “give to me” – but what if we reclaimed it as a shared experience of joy and giving? What if we approached our marriages with the question: How can I bring you pleasure today? Not just in the bedroom, but in your soul, in your heart, in your mind.

Pleasure, at its best, isn’t selfish. It’s not demanding. It’s not shallow. It’s mutual, meaningful, and deeply God given. It’s a gift that grows when it’s given. Pleasure is for both.

So, let’s change the world. Let’s stop letting the world define what God created. Let’s be people who bring joy into our homes, into our relationships, and yes – into our bedrooms. Let’s make “pleasure” a Christian word that means GIVING.

And maybe, just maybe, the world will look at our marriages and say, “That’s what I want. That’s what love looks like.” “That’s – The Marriage You Want!”

So, what is pleasure?

The joy of receiving. The beauty of being known, and deeply loved. It is the SPIRIT of GIVING.

And it starts with one simple question:

Would you like to share some pleasure together?